For All Eternity, I Forgive You

And throughout all Eternity
I forgive you, you forgive me
.
As our dear Redeemer said:
‘This the Wine, and this the Bread.'”
– Broken Love (William Blake)

Forgiving a stranger for their trespasses is easy; forgiving a close family member takes all the courage, faith and love I can muster.

I have lived under the shadow of my father all my life. He is an authoritarian figure who is critical, detached and emotionally abusive; a man of few words who is incapable of showing affection. Home has gradually become a place of fear – fear that he would erupt into another tantrum with any word that incited his anger and that the thin veil of peace will be broken once more.

Last night, it happened again. In its train, came ancient histories of pain and old memories of fear, anxiety and self-reproach. No matter how much I have previously prayed and meditated on forgiveness, the pain is still real and tangible when it strikes.

Yet, I choose to forgive. I forgive because forgiveness is the attribute of the strong; the weak can never forgive. I forgive because in forgiving others and choosing to love, I forgive myself and set myself free. I forgive so that I can continue to live with courage and with faith in God, in my values and in the goodness of humanity.

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
– Ephesians 4:31-32

© nightdawnday
p.s. Leave a comment if this resonated with you. I love to hear your stories!

19 Comments Add yours

  1. I agree with you completely – forgiving others, no matter how hard, is a gift of freedom that we give ourselves, and helps us to stay strong in our faith and relationship with God. Thank you for stopping by and liking my post. I’m glad to visit yours and look forward to reading more of you. Blessings!

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  2. Good evening, forgiveness is a key to moving on while being happy. I would like to thank you for liking my latest blog post ““S” Drops Like a “S”trike Pearl 😵⚡️”. It meant so much to me. Have a lovely evening. 🌸

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  3. For me, forgiveness has come through my heart as a gift I’ve given myself. It’s healing old triggers that caused only me pain. I’ve forgiven my mother for her years of verbal abuse. And I’ve forgiven my brother for his years of sexual abuse. That said it doesn’t mean I want a relationship with my brother (mom is now dead) because it wouldn’t be at all balanced or healthy. And I’ll never forget what happened in the past. Yet the past no longer holds me prisoner. I love your post!!

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  4. Ruth Kirk says:

    Thank you so much for writing and sharing this. My mother was similarly explosive, toxic to live with in childhood, toxic to visit ever after. Sending much sympathy and fellow-feeling. Forgiveness is a lifetime journey xxxx

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  5. Andressa says:

    thank you for sharing your story. i have a similar experience with my own parent, since i was a child, so i’m finding it hard to do the same thing you did, to forgive. it’s just hard to let go of this anger. but i guess it’s a work in progress.

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  6. joansanusi says:

    Forgiving those who pretends they’ve done nothing wrong is the worst. I am asking for grace to really forgive because I have been forgiven much by God. Thanks

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  7. hermitsdoor says:

    Forgiveness is a topic that I contemplate often. There are so many situations… and so many forms of forgiveness. To contemplate forgiveness, and to offer it, is better than contemplating offenses and bitterness. – Oscar

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  8. missionconcept says:

    “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
    God bless

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  9. Thanks for sharing this with us. Forgiving is hard but needed for us to grow and to be able to keep moving on. You are strong. ❤️

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  10. Rudolph Salazar says:

    Really lovely. Thank you for this gift. I needed it

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  11. I.D.I.D.it says:

    I forgive a little more every day. Beautiful words. Thankyou for liking mine. 😘

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  12. justakygirl says:

    Thank you for sharing. This is something we all could learn.

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  13. Ryan Hauck says:

    Your decision to forgive births light in every dark corner of mankind’s heart. Blessings

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  14. What an incredibly important topic. I’m so glad you wrote about it, and I absolutely love both the title of this post and the title of your blog. I am curious, is it based on the Genesis story where each day was described as coming in the order of

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    1. nightdawnday says:

      Thank you very much for reading. The title of my blog is a metaphor for spiritual awakening. In addition, it also represents my desire to give a balanced perspective on every issue – to embrace both the darkness and light in life. Thank you for asking. God bless ☀️

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      1. You are so welcome! What a beautiful metaphor. It’s one of the most striking blog names that I have come across. (By the way, I just now saw that somehow the last part of my previous comment, looks like it didn’t go through. Possibly an issue with my slower speed of Internet here in the jungle. At any rate, the end of that sentence was about how in the Genesis creation account, the order of description of each new day was “It was evening, and it was morning.” The evening came first. I’ve been very struck by that over the last year, which is why your blog name jumped out to me.) His richest blessings be upon you as well!

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  15. Dear nightdawnday,

    Forgive yes, honor yes, safe under creators wings yes.

    From briefly glancing at your articles and bio, would you recommend a patient of yours to stay in that environment?

    Grace, peace, and blessings ❤️

    Like

  16. Thank you for liking my post so I could find you and this beautifully written post. Forgiveness is definitely part of the healing process.

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